3 Baby Steps to Living a More Fulfilling Life

Recently I heard someone say, “Oh, I wish I had done that, but  it’s too late now.” Another thing I’ve heard recently is, “I can’t do that now. Someday, maybe, I will live out some of the dreams I have.”

Have you ever thought this way?

Honestly, that was me through most of my life. I was fearful to try things and kept waiting for the perfect time.

Then my mom passed away in her mid-sixties. Much too young. She and Dad had worked hard to raise their family and they were just getting to the point of being able to enjoy some of the things they couldn’t do with a young family.

With that, the realization that life doesn’t last forever and we’re not guaranteed tomorrow came crashing down on me. I recognized that if I didn’t start taking some chances, I might never experience my dreams and hopes. I don’t want to regret things I haven’t done because of fear.

If this is you, I have good news for you. There are ways to start living your dreams right now. I want to share with you three baby steps that have taken me from the sidelines into life.  Take chances to pursue your dreams, the time is right to step out and try something new, and it’s the little things that build a life.

What did you dream of growing up? Have you fulfilled some, but you have that one thing that you still find in the hidden corners of your heart? For me, I dreamed of being a writer.

Life didn’t turn out the way I’d hoped. I settled for a day job that would pay the mortgage and other bills. I grieved for a long time and railed against the unfairness of it all. About 12 years ago, I decided I wasn’t going to put it off any longer. I signed up for my first writing course since college. Over these past years I’ve taken small steps in that direction and most importantly, I didn’t let the naysayers sway me.

Baby step #1 – What’s one thing you can do today related to your dream? It doesn’t have to cost a lot of money or time. Find that one little thing and do it.  When that’s done, do the next thing.

Have you ever wanted to try something new, but were afraid to look silly or fail? That’s totally me! I see people doing really fun things and think, “Boy I wish I was brave enough to try something like that.” Or, “geez, if I had more time I could do all kinds of things. Maybe when I retire.”

A few years ago I received a catalog of classes at the local art school. I’ve been intrigued by wheel thrown pottery and they just happened to have a class for beginners. I decided to give it a try. I didn’t have anyone who wanted to do it with me, so I signed up by myself. Those classes were so much fun. I wasn’t able to really control the wheel and the clay, so my pieces weren’t very good, but I enjoyed myself. And I have a few items that turned out decent enough to use.

Baby step #2 – Keep an eye out for ways you can learn something you’ve always wanted to learn or do.  When you find things, just do it!


Do you put off things until everything is perfect? Do you get caught up in the idea that it’s the big things that are important? Yup, I do that. I seem to always be waiting for something else before I step out.

When I stopped waiting for the big events or timing to be perfect, I really started to enjoy life a whole lot more. Instead of waiting until I could run a marathon I decided to start small with 5k walks in the area. I’m still not running the 5k’s but I have tons of fun that I wouldn’thave had if I waited until I could run the whole thing.

Baby step #3 – Look for the little ways to enjoy life that line up with your dreams.

There are a lot of negative voices out there these days. Listen to your own positive voice and enjoy your life. The time is now to start taking small steps to living out your dreams.

I’d love to hear some of the ways you have put these baby steps in to practice. Join the conversation below or on Facebook!


2 thoughts on “3 Baby Steps to Living a More Fulfilling Life”

  1. Tammie I seem to be going in the wrong direction. I was fearless as a kid. As youngest of 11 kids in a blended family I learned what not to do to avoid punishment. I had my first job at age 12. I worked while in high school. I taught myself to draw. Played organ for our Episcopal church around age 15. Never imagined I could go to college but while playing “Pomp and Circumstance” for my new high school in a new town where I moved my senior year I knew I had to find a way. That adventure led to meeting my future husband and moving to the big city while hub finished Pharmacy School and I came to faith.

    Life throws curves . My mother passed my freshman year of college, some life altering situations presented challenges but God was with me. I learned to play golf. I took up running with my first 5K in my late 30’s and eventually ran a 10 miler. I dealt with suicide in my family, a house break-in while at home, loss of seven siblings and two sets of parents.

    Through it all God is my strength and my protector. I took up studying the craft of writing 20 years ago and met my goal of a conference in 2010 and published articles that year.. I’m celebrating 43 years of marriage and thankful for two sweet kids and a 10 year old grandchild. I expect to travel when my husband retires and I’ll face my fear of flying.

    Glad you’re one of many wonderful people I’ve met in my writing world.


  2. I’m glad to have met you, too, Daphne! You are amazing and I’m glad you shared your story. I have to admit that I go through periods where I feel like I’ve gone backwards and I think that’s normal as we go through seasons in life. Thanks for visiting and commenting!


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