Each of us is placed on this earth with a unique story. Some of us live our whole lives without ever knowing the story that is individually ours. For a long time, I didn’t know my own. I could tell you my history and about my family, but it took many years for me to hear and embrace those things that make me me.
I love this quote from Maya Angelou’s I Know Why the Cage Bird Sings:
There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside you.
It reminds me that someone needs to hear my story. To hear what I’ve been through and to know that they are not alone in some aspect of their life.
I make no secret of the fact that I’m single. Never married. Fifty years old. Add to the list the kitty boy who is so dear to me and silly stories I like to tell. It makes for an interesting package.
This is who I am.
I can try to deny it. In fact, for many years I did.
I didn’t like to talk about my singleness. It wasn’t a badge I wanted to wear on my sash. I once told God that I would write about anything he wanted me to, except singleness.
You know what happens when you tell God something like that, right?!
Yup, that’s usually the thing he makes you do. Truth is that singleness is a gift that God has given me. It doesn’t always feel like that, but there have been times in my life when I knew that beyond the shadow of a doubt.
So, while singleness is not the sole focus on this blog, it is part of me and it will come up. And, because God has a sense of humor, I’m a weekly contributor over at Girls Night In – the blog for single, over-40 women.
We may not always like parts of our stories. There are things that are painful to talk about. Those parts do shape us, and they may not be the story we tell, but they will influence what the world hears. I would encourage you to not be afraid to tell your story; you don’t have to tell it all. Sometimes it’s one little piece that will make a world of difference to someone who hears it.